Step 1: File Your Divorce Petition
Your divorce begins with filing a petition, regardless of whether your spouse agrees. You do not need their signature or permission to file. The petition outlines your requests for property division, custody, and support.
Step 2: Serve Your Spouse Formally
After filing, you must officially deliver (“serve”) the divorce papers to your spouse. This proves they received notice. Methods of service include:
- Sheriff/Process Server: A third party hand-delivers the papers ($50-$100)
- Certified Mail: Some states allow service by mail with return receipt
- Service by Publication: If your spouse cannot be located, you can publish notice in a newspaper (last resort, requires court approval)
Your spouse's refusal to accept service does not stop the process — the process server documents the delivery attempt, which constitutes valid service in most jurisdictions.
Step 3: Wait for the Response Period
After service, your spouse has a set number of days to file a response with the court:
| State | Response Deadline |
|---|---|
| Texas | 20 days (+ Monday rule) |
| Colorado | 21 days (35 if out of state) |
| Indiana | 30 days |
| Missouri | 30 days |
| Wisconsin | 20 days |
Step 4: Request a Default Judgment
A default judgment means the court accepts your proposed terms for property division, custody, and support. This is why it's critical to have your settlement agreement and divorce forms completed properly from the start.
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What If Your Spouse Responds but Won't Agree?
If your spouse files a response but contests your terms, you have a contested divorce. This involves:
- Discovery: Both sides exchange financial and custody information
- Mediation: Many states require mediation before trial
- Trial: A judge decides the disputed issues
Even in contested cases, most divorces settle before trial. Using properly prepared uncontested divorce forms as a starting point for negotiations often speeds the process.
Key Takeaway
Your spouse cannot prevent your divorce by refusing to sign. The legal system has procedures — service of process and default judgment — specifically designed for this situation. The most important step is getting your divorce forms completed accurately so the court can proceed efficiently.
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Get Your Divorce Forms →Contested Divorce FAQ
No. A spouse cannot prevent a divorce. If they refuse to sign or respond, you can proceed through service of process and, eventually, obtain a default judgment from the court.
Contested divorces typically take 6 months to 2+ years depending on the complexity of disputes and the court's schedule. Simple cases where the spouse just won't respond can be resolved more quickly through default judgment.
While not legally required, a lawyer is recommended for contested cases involving significant assets, custody disputes, or domestic violence situations. For cases where your spouse simply won't respond, online form services can prepare the necessary documents.